Side Hustle: MMM

To say the MMM train is huge in Nigeria is an understatement, I even dreamt about it last night. I am not even joking; I had a friend call me before bed time asking my thoughts on the scheme. She is currently serving as a corps member in one of the local government offices in Lagos.
After hearing from her colleagues that salary would not be regular, she was trying to prepare herself and invest. The economic situation in Nigeria took a turn for the worse, and this is not news for any Nigerian. Everyone I know has started looking for a plan B, looking for investment opportunities, cutting down costs and all that. Out of the blue came MMM, MMM is a platform which in summary claims to operate a mutual aid programme requesting participants to provide money to others and promising returns of 30% of such monies after 30 days. This sounds like a great idea but why are people calling it a Ponzi scheme? What is a Ponzi scheme?
A Ponzi scheme (also a Ponzi game or a Ponzi) is a fraudulent investment operation where the operator, an individual or organisation, pays returns to its investors from new capital paid to the operators by new investors, rather than from profit earned through legitimate sources. Operators of Ponzi schemes usually entice new investors by offering higher returns than other investments, in the form of short-term returns that are either abnormally high or unusually consistent.
Initially the promoter will pay out high returns to attract more investors and to lure current investors into putting in additional money. Other investors begin to participate, leading to a cascade effect. The “return” to the initial investors is paid out of the investments of new entrants, and not out of profits. Often the high returns encourage investors to leave their money in the scheme, with the result that the promoter does not have to pay out very much to investors; he simply has to send them statements showing how much they have earned. This maintains the deception that the scheme is an investment with high returns.
Many people have tried to get me started on this MMM business, and I know people who are benefiting from it right now but honestly it is not something I can put my money in. I remember in the late nineties there was something very similar that my mother got involved in, it had a tree or ladder or something that showed how high you were rising and how much you were entitled to before you would exit the cycle. I remember my mother never getting that money, and that has stayed with me. I applaud the brave people who got in on this early and those who are reaping the rewards, but the truth is that this would crash one day.

However, business is always a risk, and I hope now with our economic situation more people would be financially savvy and allocate their resources wisely. If you are still looking to join MMM, ask your neighbour or someone sitting next to you in Church. I can assure you that you would be signed up in fifteen minutes.
 

How to Deal With a Break Up

This time last year I was single, this time this year I am single, well technically. What happened in between was an amazing journey. In December I met an old high school sweetheart and started the year on a promising note. There is no standard way to deal with a breakup, but I am going to share what worked for me.

1.Have a support systemI say this a lot because it is really important. I was one of those girls who did not mind cutting off my friends. I became so wrapped up in being in a relationship. The lesson here is that you need friends outside your relationship. It helps you keep a social life when your love interest is gone
2.Be AdventurousThere are many things you may have thought of doing that maybe your lover was not interested in, I say Do it! Do everything! Try things even if it means doing them alone
3.Enjoy your CompanyIt should not be so painful to be by yourself, use this time to think about the relationship what your faults were, warning signs you ignored and real plans for the other aspects of your life. This is the time to create new relationship goals, new spiritual goals and career goals
4.Forgive HimThere is nothing more that can hurt you than holding on to the past. There is no need to send angry texts and emails to relationship gurus. It will hurt, but you need to have faith that better things are around the corner. This is of course if you cannot change the situation. Please don’t resort to curses as well
5.Forgive YourselfYes, he was perfect, but maybe that is not the way your story would end.
Let me know what has worked for you.

Goal Setting for 2017

For the past few years, I noticed I was writing the same goals year in year out. I would illustrate my goals in my journal, draw out the activities and things I wanted, for instance, sketching my heap of money. The same things kept showing up; travel, buy land, dream job, become a multi-millionaire, when I didn’t achieve them, I simply scheduled them for the nest year however for the very first time I am closer to achieving my goals. I am going to share the things I learnt that brought me closer to success. I hope they work for you;

• Those motivational speakers know what they are saying, writing stuff down helps.
I don’t mean when you write it down it magically gets done, it doesn’t. In the past I would start my year been fired up about my goals then forget and start coasting; meeting each day as it comes then I would stumble across one of my journals and remember the things I wanted to achieve when the year started. Most times I would feel guilty and take a small step
• The difference between a goal and a wish is that a goal has a time frame and a process. You may not be able to achieve that goal in one fell swoop but making certain decisions bring you closer. This year when you set your goals also list possible strategies that would help you achieve them. For my goal of becoming a multi-millionaire, I started one of the side hustles I have been writing about and started saving more
• Our culture preaches hiding our plans or not showing our cards when we are working towards something. The opposite has worked in my favour, I decided I wanted to do more writing and public speaking, I mentioned this to some people, and they contacted me when they heard of such openings. Informing the right people about your plans can open doors of opportunities
• Help others to achieve their goals. Life is hard as it is without having more hindrances, I have found that apart from the joy of helping someone, you get exposed to things you may not have encountered just staying in your lane. Hey, there is no harm in throwing some good karma out there
• Stay Optimistic. I could have said be optimistic, but there are many times life knocks the wind out of your sails, so I encourage you to stay positive
I wish you success in achieving your goals.
*Clears throat* I want to buy land next year, who is selling at a miracle price or giving away?

7 Most Exciting Places To Spend Your Christmas In Nigeria

With only a few days remaining to Christmas, you must have been thinking of an amazing place to spend the Christmas with your loved ones aside from the traditional act of travelling to your hometown.
Here, we present you with a list of the seven most amazing places to spend Christmas vacation in Nigeria.
Silverbird Galleria-Lagos

The Silverbird Galleria is a modern Galleria with entertainment packages where you can see the latest movies, live concert and shows, stage plays to mention a few.
It is a perfect spot for pre or post movie dinner. It also features exquisite shopping outlets and a night club called Cubes which is one of the best club hangouts presently in Lagos.
Tarkwa Bay- Lagos

If you want a fun-filled place to spend Christmas with the family or your significant other, Tarkwa Bay is a perfect choice.
Located about 20 minutes from Lagos CMS Boat Jetty, Tarkwa Bay surrounded with crystal clear water, sandy beach and warm atmosphere. It is the best place to experience exciting activities such as water skiing, jet skiing, boat cruising or having a picnic on the beach.
Lekki Leisure Lake-Lagos

Lekki Leisure is a lakeside resort overlooking the Atlantic in the Lekki peninsula area.
It is operated and managed by Optima Leisure, a leisure asset development and operating company. Catch a view of the Atlantic and feel the excitement.
Muson Centre-Lagos

The Muson Centre is known to be the best place to watch the best stage plays and performances that will fascinate you in Lagos.
It offers best traditional and contemporary performances that you can’t afford to miss. 
Obudu Ranch Resort-Calabar

Situated in Cross Rivers State, Obudu Ranch Resort is one of the wonders of Nigeria and arguably the best vacation spot for anyone seeking to enjoy his or her holiday in an environment that gives you a perfect blend of nature and modernity.
The Obudu Ranch Resort features a water park, a golf course and horse riding, night club as well as bonfires.
A walk through the Obudu forest brings one closer to nature as you listen to beautiful birds singing melodiously to your delight.
If you want a vacation spot where you can establish a lasting bond between you and your spouse or family, then Obudu is another perfect choice.
Wonderland Amusement Park-Abuja

This park is unarguably the biggest and most equipped park in Nigeria.
It offers leisure gardens for visitors recreation and rides as well as an amazing arcade.
It has a Fulani Ranch that offers a variety of tasty local and intercontinental cuisines.
A host of other restaurants and shops are also on ground at the park to cater for your needs while at the park.
The park also boasts of a clinic for treatment of minor injuries.
If you are planning a family picnic, a group get together or wants to spend quality time bonding with your family.
Ikogosi Warm Spring Resort

Named after the town where this mysterious spring is located; Ikogosi in Ekiti state.
Flowing abreast the warm spring is another cold spring which meets the warm spring at a confluence, each maintaining its thermal properties.
These attributes make the spring a tourist attraction in Nigeria.
The resort equally offers recreational facilities as well as accommodation for visitors who wish to spend the night in the serene environment that the resort offers.

Book Review: On Becoming

There was so much fuss about the book, at first I was not sure if I was interested in reading it. I was just thinking, ‘Okay great she is going to tell us about the fantastic deals she struck to allow her to afford her weaves, designer bags and lifestyle as an On-air Personality’. I thought it would be great to read about her self-promotion skills then I started seeing excerpts on Twitter about how Maje having a child in the past earlier.
I realised that this would be juicy gossip. The excerpts and spoilers kept popping up, and my curiosity was seriously piqued. I considered buying this book off Amazon but thankfully an awesome friend sent the book to me.

The book starts talking about Toke’s childhood and the loss of her parents; it was really sad to read that tragic piece of her history. Although touted as a must tell, I honestly don’t know much about Toke after reading this however I am well acquainted with the flaws of her ex-husband Maje Ayida. I believe the author was fascinated by her much her personal life generated interest and decided to spin that into a money maker. Toke answers all of your curiosities surrounding the wedding saga are in this “Must-tell”, some stereotypes about Unilag girls especially those living in Moremi Hostel are also confirmed. This book confirms though that not all demons are of the Yoruba tribe; the Deltans are apparently in close running.
On Becoming by Toke Makinwa focused solely on her failed marriage and makes you wonder how 32 years on earth, a man is at the core of her life’s story. Toke admits to self-esteem issues and cites her ex-husband’s biracial love interest as one of the main reasons; I am struggling hard to believe that as social media has revealed said woman to us. Whoever published the book did not do so in her best interests.
All in all, this book would satisfy your curiosity and provide you with the gist factor we Nigerians crave, but it would not leave with any profound life lessons if you wish to excel in any area outside of relationships.
I say huge congratulations to Toke Makinwa as she smiles to the bank as a result of our amebo.

DIY Beauty: Coconut Oil and Honey Hair Mask

Do you have damaged Hair probably from heat treatments or styling products? This hair mask is perfect for repairing and moisturising damaged hair.
Ingredients
Two parts Coconut oil
Two parts Honey
1 part Apple Cider Vinegar
These three ingredients all have amazing benefits for the Hair.
Coconut oil

It seals in hair moisture
It has antibacterial and antifungal properties which help to control dandruff
It also contains Vitamin E, Vitamin K and Iron

Honey

It helps maintain the moisture content of the hair
It gives a healthy scalp

Apple Cider Vinegar

It balances the pH of the Hair
It helps in the removal of styling products build up inthe hair
It leaves the hair shinier and smoother

Procedure

Mix the Coconut oil, Honey and Apple vinegar in a bowl
Place in the microwave and heat for a few minutes
Stir well

Your mask is ready for application! You see, it is so easy!

Wet your hair and apply the mask from the roots of your hair to the tip
Leave on for 30 minute
Wash and rinse your hair

You will notice soft, smooth, healthy hair after just a few uses.
Tips

This hair mask will separate when it is cooled, so you will have to and stir before each use.

4 Perfect Christmas Movies To Watch This Season

Christmas is in the air! After the hustle of the year 2016, its time to relax and enjoy the holiday with family and friends.
To help you map out your holiday movie mega-marathon, we’ve put together a list of 4 Christmas movies that are the perfect way to distract yourself from the turn of another year.
Enjoy!
Home Alone (1990)

In case you missed this funny movie in previous years, its time to make up for the missed fun.
Home Alone stars Macaulay Culkin as a boy, Kevin who is accidentally left behind when his family goes to Paris for a holiday.
As Kevin’s parents struggle to get back to him, he ends up having to defend his home from robbers (Joe Pesci and Daniel Stern) who are determined to make their Christmas cheer by stealing everything in the house.
The Best Man Holiday (2013)

If you want a holiday tearjerker with solid performances and plenty of eye candy, just watch The Best Man Holiday, the (far superior) sequel to 1999’s The Best Man.
In this film, a group of friends stage a Big Chill– style reunion to celebrate Christmas together with all the trimmings: food, fights, football, and tragedy.
The cast includes Morris Chestnut, Monica Calhoun, Taye Diggs, Sanaa Lathan, Regina Hall, and Terrence Howard; they make the most of the melodramatic material, turning in performances that will have you cry-laughing into your eggnog.
A Madea Christmas (2013)

You will enjoy this emotional and funny movie.
Madea gets coaxed into helping a friend pay her daughter a surprise visit in the country for Christmas, but that’s not the surprise, the biggest surprise is what they’ll find when they arrive.
As the small, rural town prepares for its annual Christmas Jubilee, new secrets are revealed, and old relationships are tested while Madea dishes her brand of Christmas Spirit to all.
A Bride for Christmas (2012)

After Jessie Patterson (Arielle Kebbel) calls off her third engagement – at the altar! – she swears off serious relationships until she finds “the one.”
That is, until charming but chronically single Aiden MacTiernan (Andrew Walker) comes along. Unbeknownst to Jessie, Aiden has bet his friends that he can convince a woman to marry him by Christmas – which is only four weeks away – and Jessie is the target of his bet. As Aiden attempts to court Jessie by first hiring her to decorate his apartment, Jessie looks to her sister, roommate and interior design company partner, Vivian (Kimberly Sustad) as her closest confidant.
To complicate matters, Jessie is doggedly pursued by her most recent ex-fiance, Mike (Sage Brocklebank), who still wants to marry her. When Aiden finds himself falling for Jessie too, will he call off the bet and truly pursue her?

5 Hair Products You Must Have

Your skin shouldn’t get all the love and pampering; your hair is important too.
Taking good care of your hair is essential. And having your hair essentials is very good too.
You may not have time to see your stylist, and you may even prepare to work on your hair yourself.
Here are the hair care products and tools most women should have on hand.
Hair Brushes
The higher quality your hairbrush, the healthier your hair.
Don’t fret about spending money on a good brush because they’re worth it and last a lot longer than a cheap one; plus, they would do your hair better.
The Right Shampoo for Your Hair Type
Shampoos work by cleansing your hair of dirt and oil.
It’s important to buy shampoo formulated for your hair type.
A Curling Iron and Flat Iron
It’s good to have these on hand if you want to change up your look.
They both work on all hair types. Curling irons will add volume to flat hair and structure to wavy hair.
Flat irons help tame curls and flatten straight hair even more so it falls like a sheet. Always use a flat iron with ceramic plates, it is much safer on hair.
An Ionic Blow Dryer
Get a good blow dryer. The more powerful your dryer, the better.
A strong, ionic blow dryer, will speed drying time which reduces your hair’s exposure to damaging heat. If you have thick hair, you’ll want a dryer with at least 1,875 watts.
If you have finer hair than most people, make do with 1,500 watts.
Conditioner
It is important to condition your hair after every shampoo.
Hair pros will tell you conditioner can help repair heat- and chemical-damaged hair. The truth is conditioners protect your hair from these things.
If you want to spend less time brushing out long wet hair, condition the ends. Your comb will zip right through your hair.

DIY: Hair Steam

Yes, I wish that was my hair in the picture too.
Ladies, don’t you just love how these days most of the stuff in your fridge can be used on your hair? I mean food stuff would not go to waste anymore. I am serious, though. With the rise of the naturalistas and team naturals, many natural hair gurus have let us in on exciting, never been thought of products for luxurious hair. With these products from the house, you may not need even to visit the salon.

Before we get started, I am just going to list the cool items that can be used to steam your hair and also in a sandwich.

Honey
Shea butter
Yogurt
Avocado
Egg white
Aloe Vera
Mayonnaise
; Olive Oil, Castor Oil, Sweet Almond oil, Coconut oil, Argan oil

Though not all at the same time. I am going to share the simplest method to steam your hair with the right products all by yourself. Your hair will instantly feel stronger. Try these;
Egg, Conditioner and oils
Mix the egg, a conditioner of your choice and one of the oils mentioned above in a small bowl. Partition the hair into four or more parts. Use a small comb or your fingers to apply evenly around the hair. Cover with a shower cap for at an hour. You can do other chores at this time. You may also sit under a dryer at mid temperatures, definitely not hot to cook the egg. Then wash out completely with lukewarm water and dry. In this formula, the oils would provide moisture and shine. This is a simple protein treatment.  Obviously, the egg is the protein which helps strengthen the hair bonds from the follicle.
Yoghurt, Aloe Vera juice/gel and oils
Protein is a vital part of yoghurt; it also contains lactic acid; an alpha hydroxy acid which strips the outer layer of the hairs’ keratin, helping to improve absorption of other nutritious products like the Aloe vera gel/juice. For the Aloe Vera, you can simply open one of the leaves and apply directly to the hair. It is a great conditioner, and the oil will help lock the nutrients in.
Mayonnaise, Honey and Oils
Mayonnaise is pretty much eggs and vegetable oil, so it’s a great alternative to using actual eggs, mixing it with Honey will give it the moisture balance and the oils will seal everything in.
 
Like in the method mentioned in the first option, mix all ingredients together and apply to the hair. Wash out completely.
 

DIY Beauty: Whipped Body Butter

This Body Butter is great for sensitive skin and also great for Babies. It makes use of Shea butter and Cocoa butter which is a highly moisturising combination. Try it, and you will love it!
Ingredients 
½ cup Shea butter
½ cup Cocoa butter
½ cup Coconut oil
½ cup Light oil (e.g. almond oil, jojoba oil or olive oil)
20 drops of Lavender essential oil
Procedure

Using the double boiler method, combine all the ingredients except the essential oil
Melt the mixture over medium heat while stirring
Remove the mixture from heat and allow to cool slightly
Add the essential oil
Place the mixture in the fridge for an hour and allow it to harden just slightly
Whip with a hand mixer for about 10 minutes
Return to the fridge for another 10 -15 minutes to allow it set

You are done! And your whipped cream is ready for use.

Store your butter in a glass jar and place in a cool area.
Use it as you use your body cream.

Tips

For the Double boiler method; place a pot with water on the stove, place a smaller pan or bowl with the ingredients into the pot and put on the heat
You can use any essential oil of choice in step 3.